If you call the kid to stop resisting and to sit quietly – it is not timeout. During a timeout the child is given complete freedom to resist. Do not expect that the kid will love the time-outs and sit quietly. There is nothing wrong to give your child time to cool down. This is the way forward child and one of the methods of education. Father or mother may tell intractable teenager: "So it will not work. I want you to be a bit sat in my room and cool down.
Then we can talk again. " Perhaps a teenager really need is simply a little cooled down. Although such a possibility to cool down in something like a timeout, but this is not the same thing. In this case, you simply redirect to the other teen activities to weaken it resistance. If a child resists the will of the father or mother, a parent gives a command, but the teenager continues to resist, then it is – a timeout. In the end, teen furious rushes to her room.
At such moments parents should behave very carefully: you do not blame the daughter or son for disobedience, and persistently repeat the order until such time as he will not go into his room. When a teenager come a bit later, he will behave if it replaced. The fourth common mistake parents is that they use time-outs as a punishment. Although the child and may feel that he is punished timeouts, it is important that parents themselves do not used this method as a punishment. Siegel Family Endowment takes a slightly different approach.